Improving victims’ safety
Coach a victim to take responsibility for his or her safety by becoming familiar with local stalking laws, resources, and law enforcement policies.13,22 Emphasize that a victim must be assertive to ensure that safety measures are in place (Table 3).3,8,10,15,18
As soon as unwanted pursuit is apparent, the victim should unequivocally tell the stalker that no relationship is wanted.8 This message must be firm, reasonable, and as clear as possible. The victim should not attempt to deliver the message gently or let the stalker “down easy.” Otherwise, the stalker may believe the victim is ambivalent about the decision and will continue or redouble his or her efforts.
After delivering this message, the victim should not engage in any further discussion or initiate contact with the stalker. The victim must avoid all contact to minimize the effects of “intermittent positive reinforcement.”15
The victim should document and preserve evidence by recording the dates and times of each unwanted contact, including vandalism, in an “incident log” or journal. Encourage him or her to photograph and note the date of any property damage. This documentation will help establish a clear course of illegal conduct and can prove invaluable to police and prosecution efforts.
The victim should preserve any evidence—including gifts, mementos, and other materials—by placing it in a plastic bag labeled with the date, time, and place it was received. Encourage the victim to:
- resist the urge to discard evidence that may evoke feelings of fear, shame, or disgust
- avoid handling evidence, and store it in a secure location.
- establish a post office box to prevent someone from stealing mail containing personal information
- shred personal mail instead of placing it in the trash.
It is essential for the victim to form a network of trusted social contacts who will provide a “safety net.” Informing family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors about stalking and its potentially serious consequences may reduce the risk that they might inadvertently disclose a victim’s personal information to the stalker.8 The victim can distribute a photo of the stalker to members of the safety network, as well as co-workers, with instructions to call the victim if the stalker is spotted.
Security experts often advise victims not to adhere to their usual, predictable routines by, for example, taking different daily travel routes or being prepared to go out of town at short notice.2 Victims should also make contingency plans in case their social supports are unavailable in an emergency. Victim advocacy agents can give information about services and locations of local “safe houses” or domestic violence shelters.
Table 3
Victim safety strategies
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Source: References 3,8,10,15,18 |
Treating stalkers
Failing to treat a mentally ill stalker may result in continued risk to the victim. For example, an intimacy-seeking stalker with erotomanic delusions who is confined without treatment likely will be released with no significant reduction in risk. No reliable outcome data exist on treatment for stalkers, however, so you must rely on empirically derived clinical data.
If you work with stalkers, you must be familiar with your state’s duty-to-protect statutes and relevant case law related to stalking so you can discuss legal obligations with the stalker before beginning treatment.
Most stalkers will be difficult to engage in treatment because they have been compelled by a court order to seek therapy. Initially you are likely to encounter the stalker’s striking lack of insight into the nature and consequences of this behavior. The stalker may seek validation for his or her actions while demonstrating little interest in ending the obsessional behavior. Expect well-entrenched defenses of denial, rationalization, and minimization.