By the time kids reach fourth and fifth grade, he continued, they begin to form their opinion “about what they believe is cool and not cool, and they begin to get into cliques that have similar beliefs, and support each other, and may break off from old friends.” He added that, while adult predation “makes the news and is certainly something we should all be concerned about, the incidence of being harassed and bullied by someone in your own age group at school is actually much higher and still has serious outcomes, including the possibility of death.”
The Massachusetts antibullying law stipulates that all teachers and all school personnel have to participate in mandatory bullying training. Schools also are required to draft and follow a bullying investigative protocol.
“Apparently the schools have all done this, yet the number of times that schools use interventions that are not advisable, such as mediation, is incredible to me,” Dr. Raffalli said. “Bringing the bully and the victim together for a ‘cup of coffee and a handshake’ is not advisable. Mediation has been shown in a number of studies to be detrimental in bullying situations. Things can easily get worse.”
Often, family members who bring their child to the BACPAC “feel that their child’s school is not helping them,” he said. “We should try to figure out why those schools are having such a hard time and see if we can help them.”
Dr. Raffalli reported having no financial disclosures.