May is Mental Health Awareness Month, providing us a chance to go beyond discussing the screening, diagnosis, and evidence-based treatments for the mental illnesses of youth. The World Health Organization defines good mental health as “a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her own community.” While the science of mental health promotion and disease prevention in childhood and adolescence is relatively young, there are several discrete domains in which you can follow and support your patient’s developing mental health. This begins with the well-being of new parents, and then moves into how parents are helping their children to develop skills to manage their basic daily needs and impulses, their thoughts and feelings, their stresses and their relationships. With a little support from you, parents can confidently help their children develop the foundations for good mental health.
First year of life: Parental mental health
Dr. Susan D. Swick
Perhaps the strongest risk factor for serious mental illness in childhood and adulthood is parental neglect during the first year of life, and neglect in the first several months of life is the most commonly reported form of child abuse. Infant neglect is associated with parental depression (and other mental illnesses), parental substance use, and a parent’s own experience of childhood abuse or neglect. Neglect is more common with teenaged parents and parents living in poverty. Pediatricians are uniquely connected to families during the first year of a child’s life. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends screening new mothers for depression at 1-, 2-, 4-, and 6-month infant check-ups with the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Screen. Even without a positive screen, new parents may need the fortifications of extra community support to adapt to the changes parenthood brings.
At checkups, ask (both) parents how they are managing the stresses of a new baby. Are they getting restful sleep? Do they have social supports? Are they connected to a community (friends, extended family, faith) or isolated? Are they developing confidence as parents or feeling overwhelmed? Simple guidance, such as “sleep when the baby sleeps” and reassurance that taking good care of themselves is taking good care of the baby is always helpful. Sometimes you will need to refer for treatment or to community supports. Have your list of online and in-person resources at the ready to provide parents with these prescriptions. Supporting parental mental health and adjustment in the first year of life is possibly the most important building block for their child’s future mental health.
Toddlers and up: Emotional literacy
Emotional literacy (sometimes called “emotional intelligence”) is the capacity to recognize, identify, and manage feelings in oneself and in others. This skill begins to develop in infancy when parents respond to their baby’s cries with attunement, feeding or changing them if needed, and at other times simply reflecting their feelings and soothing them with movement, singing, or quiet talking. As children grow, so does their range of feelings, and their (cognitive) capacity to identify and manage them. Parents support this development by being available whenever their young children experience strong emotions, calmly listening, and acknowledging their discomfort. Parents can offer words for describing those feelings, and even be curious with their young children where in their bodies they are feeling them, how they can stay patient while the feeling passes or things they might be able to do to feel better. Parents may want to remove their child’s distress, but staying calm, curious, and present while helping their child to manage it will build their child’s emotional health. Parents can nurture this development in a less intense way by reading books about feelings together and noticing and identifying feelings in other children or in cartoon characters.